Monday, 4 February 2013

Random @ 25 months old

Drawing

He says "teapot"

designing his own grandfather's clock

Hard at work

Humpty Dumpty

Humpty Dumpty Sitting on a wall - notice the hands, legs and a hat on him?

Clock

Drawing
I'm very happy whenever he draws on paper

Leaf I believe

Grandfather's Clock again
  
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Writing
This time the H is very obvious no?

I too!
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Little Adventures

FOC Playground at T3 Airport
Learning ABC while bathing.. no! Simply another method to lure him to take bath.. @-@

Playground @ Central
 
Little helper helping helper

Must-do during CNY - floral!

Hort Park Adventure: 3rd Feb'13

Coincidentally, he turns 26 months.

Hubby and I decided not to send him to any enrichment classes for the time being. Thus, he hasn't been to any for over 3 months now. We made a silent promise to each other to bring IZ to little adventures on weekends instead. It would be more fun than classroom classes. Why silent?

We of course do not want to make a LOUD BANGING promise for something we couldn't keep up with. Most of the days, hubby would be way too lazy to bring us anywhere. And not that I need him to bring us, but it's the family bonding that I am particular about.

On Sun, we woke up early and decided to go Hort Park for our little adventure.

It is very happy and entertaining to see the expression on IZ's face throughout our adventure.

Fascinated by the kois and arowanas

Too timid to cross the bridge by himself

Gloomy day, but it was fun nonetheless

Roam freely..

Chasing after the 2 birds!

The world is his!

Father & Son - wish I had a proper camera

He was scared to move, needed to hold hands through the swing

Relaxing corner

There are more than 2 butterflies there.. camouflaged

One of the many mini gardens (in the city as you can see)

The start of the climbing up the slide

Instead of sliding down

1st Encounter with a scarecrow

Found a mini hut!

What's in there?

Taking a 5

Many taking group photo there

One of the few (prototype) glasshouses

Miss my camera

Towards butterfly garden

But it was not opened.. Open house on every last Sat of the month..

Wanted to be carried, but this group of runner in front motivated him, and cheered him to walk.. till they went out of sight.. guess what happened next?

Vending machine for fish food.. he said "I want money" - somehow I was amazed he knew we must insert money

IZ and the fishes couldn't wait for the food

Feeding the fishes

Had brunch at Queenstown market

Note:

Hort Park Operating Hours: 6am - 10pm daily

Activities: Other than fun running around enjoying the scenery, they also offer gardening workshop for kids and youth, HortDoctor to cure your diseased plants.

Our verdict: Fantastic place to enjoy flaura & fauna, taking photos, for weddings and private function.

THE TROUBLE WITH ALEX: A CHILD TOO DAMAGED TO LOVE BY MELANIE ALLEN


I finished reading this book within a day. Considering the book is about 300 pages and more, I must have ignored many aspects to be able to complete it.
The book is about a couple with a son adopting Alex whose birth mother was not capable of taking care of her properly due to excessive drugs and alcohol.
The book made me cry, made me sick, made me anxious as the story unfold, I couldn’t help but wanting the story to finish so I know what was exactly wrong with Alex, if any.
Personally believe Melanie was not ready to be an adopter, especially as she learnt Alex has learning difficulty or even suspected her of faking her difficulties. But sometimes, by the way Melanie described about Alex and her character, I couldn’t help to think Alex may be faking it too.
Melanie is not physically nor mentally prepared for the adoption. She was very honest in her book, on how she was not interested in learning about Alex’s development in school, brushing off anybody who has kind intention to help. She was always negative about Alex, wanting Alex to be part of them instead of the other way round.
Not just Melanie and Alex were the victim of the circumstances, but Rob and Daniel (Melanie’s son) too. Melanie and Rob went on separation, and Daniel is definitely affected in one way or another.
This book reminds me of my anticipation towards my son. At times, I think he was pretending, pretending to be “ignorant”. My take is, he is far too brilliant to be ignorant, but my mother-in-law always says “he is just 2 years old”. I always challenge her back; he is sometimes too smart for a 2 year old, you think he is that ignorant?
There are many parties involved in the adoption, which happened in UK, and I’m actually glad there are therapists, social services, hospitals, families to help these “disturbed” children.
For the first time in my years of reading, I found this book incomplete. Is that all? Is that what happened to Alex? Continuously being disturbed, at times brilliant, at times disturbed, at times violent, at times aggressive as she is too damaged to love? Is there nothing we can do to help her?
It is really sad..
Note: please consider properly and take on as many assessments possible if you choose to adopt children with special needs, they are not called “special needs children” out of fun.

Lesson D for Dog: 3rd Feb'13

He was happy when I said we'll do ABC lesson. And he sat on his chair waited for me.

After we sang the greeting song, I took out the D feely, and he said "Issac trace". Wow! He did it without me prompting.

D feely
Then we listened to the rhyme, and again, he couldn't wait for the song to finish. I have to surrender that listening (without pictures) is not his "thing".

And we proceeded with the miserable D items I've prepared. He get the hang of it, when I said "you can only take out one, no seeing, no peeping!"

Playing drum sticks happily

No peeping and that's what he did.. haha!
Then we did the colouring of the dog, he said "doggie".

Colouring

Concentrating.. for a minute..

End result as he refused to colour anymore
 Somehow I knew he could colour well if he wants to. He has been shading on his magnetic draw board and says "colour colour colour", and he shaded them WITHIN lines.

I tried to find some video on YouTube on children colouring to motivate him further, but to no avail.

Past Lessons:
You can also follow IZ's Lernen-Reise on Facebook for more personal and up-to-date learning fun!

Lesson D for Duck: 31st Jan'13

As usual we started with greeting song, and I had 101% from him for the minute.

Then we traced the feely for D and listened to the rhyme of D. He still not able to sit through the rhyme.

Tracing feely
But he was once again excited to take the D items out the treasure bag. It was disappointing though, as I couldn't get actual things to represent D except for the piece of diaper. Haha, brilliant right? He was really happy when he pulled out the diaper, and said "diaper" but subsequent items, in flashcards.. he showed no expression.. :-( I was disappointed in myself too, but I really couldn't produce any better than this! D sucks..

My miserable D items

He had fun playing with the drum sticks

I have to admit this art & craft is not the best I've done. I didn't explain.. ya, again! I should have explained and told him what to do. Instead, I say, let's glue and pat and gave him the glue stick. And so he attacked the beak first. Mental note for n-th time, REMEMBER TO EXPLAIN TO HIM WHAT IS EXPECTED!

He went first, for the beak.. I told him there's no feather on the beak..

Putting feather on the head

Ta-ra!
Past Lessons:
You can also follow IZ's Lernen-Reise on Facebook for more personal and up-to-date learning fun!

Random talk

At 26 months:

Trying to teach him how to cross the road..

Mommy: look to your right

IZ looked to his right

Mommy: see if there's any car.. No car, we can cross..

IZ: yes car there (pointing to one of the cars parked at the side of the road)

Mommy: ...

Daddy: see if there's any car COMING TOWARDS you..

Just another reminder on how I shall speak properly to the toddler..

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Friday, 1 February 2013

Random Talk

At 25 month, going 26 months in few days:

Play Doctor
I was lying on the floor claiming backache. He touched his lower back for a while, and came running to me with his magnetic board pen, climbed onto me, and tried to force my mouth open “open the mouth” and “shine” the pen into my mouth as if he was holding a torchlight.
Brilliant moment!
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Woke up in the morning, while preparing to go to school:
IZ: I want go market
Mommy: go market to buy what?
IZ: I want go market buy banana
Reflection: I have mixed feeling for this one. Well, I’m glad to certain extent that he doesn’t mind going to the market. Wet markets in SG are decently clean and not exactly WET. For someone who hated “wet-marketing”, I could say I really did well in this department that is raising him not fearing wet markets. I’ve successfully bringing up a “kampong boy” in the city.
The mixed feeling came when he repeated that he wants to go to market this morning, and Ah Nah (our helper) told him: why market, something is wrong, you should say I want go shopping, not market. Everyone else go shopping, you go market.
Duhz!
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Night routine via Candy Saga:
I would be playing Candy Saga on the iPad and he would climb onto me, blocking my view.
Mommy: go away IZ
IZ: I want iPad
Mommy: no, go away IZ
IZ: I want watch Humpty Dumpty
Mommy: no (brushing and pulling him off the device so I could continue playing)
IZ: play together mommy
And he would try to help me with Candy Saga, calling out “mommy blue one” “mommy orange one”.
Reflection: I was really impressed the first time he said “play together”. I didn’t know he knows the concept of play together.

Thursday, 31 January 2013

Therapeutic Play.. for children in need.

Many may be aware of what Play Therapy is, some may have heard but do not know much, some may have not heard about Play Therapy before.
So, what exactly is Play Therapy and who can benefit from it? – Please read the article below.
From: http://www.singaporeartscienceprize.edu.sg/main/index.php/groups/29-kid-do-stuff/166-play-therapy-child

Helping a Child Through Play Therapy
By JANE FRAMINGHAM, PH.D.


Adults often think of child’s play as mere fun and games, or a way to fill time. Actually, imaginative and creative play assists a child’s cognitive growth and emotional adjustment. Through play, a child develops self-confidence, a positive self-image and learns to express feelings, make decisions and cope with real-life situations. As such, play can be therapeutic, helping a child deal with and overcome problems that inhibit his normal development.

How does play therapy work?
Play therapy offers a child a safe place to play out-rather than talk out-his thoughts, feelings and problems. The therapist chooses toys that encourage “fantasy play,” such as clay, sand, water, drawing materials and puppets, as well as toys that enable a child to act out real-life scenarios. The therapist builds a warm and supportive relationship with the child, thereby encouraging the child to open up through the symbolic language of play.

During a therapy session, few limits are set and the child is given complete freedom to control his play and actions. In such a protective, yet empowering environment, the child generally leads the therapist to the source of his emotional disturbance through his activity and behavior. The therapist uses developmentally appropriate techniques to help the child let go of negative or restricting feelings and develop coping mechanisms to use in real life.

Who can benefit from play therapy?
All children go through stages or an occasional emotional “crisis.” But some children have serious problems, often caused by:

Neglect

Family violence
Divorce, separation or other changes in a family situation
Severe burns or disfigurement
Chronic illness
Deafness or other physical challenges
Grief
Hospitalization
Learning disabilities or other mental challenges
Often, a child needing help displays the following traits or behaviors:

Poor academic performance
Poor relationship with peers or siblings
Passivity, withdrawal
Bedwetting after toilet training
Reading problems
Social immaturity
Speech difficulties
Refusal to speak
Preoccupation with sex
Excessive worrying, anger, sadness or anxietyPhobias
Aggressive behavior or acting out
Knowing if a child needs professional help is not always easy. Ask your family physician or a mental health professional for guidance.


 

I’m currently a Therapeutic Play Trainee, looking for suitable case studies.
As such, I welcome any individuals if you have any referral or recommendation or if you need more information; please drop me an email at iz_mum@yahoo.com
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I have listed herewith, what you'll be expecting.

What’s after initial contact?
I’ll need the referrer to fill in Referral Form and the teacher/parent/guardian/child (if he is older than 3.5 years old) to complete the SDQ questionnaire. This is to determine whether the child needs therapy and if I’m suitable to take on the case.

What’s next?
If concluded that the child’s case could be taken on, we’ll have to sign on a confidentiality agreement. This is necessary to protect you and your child from breach of confidentiality.
Then, we’ll work out a plan on where and when the therapy will be held.

How long is a session?
Elaboration on Play Therapy: 1) 45mins of therapeutic hour (the child will be exposed to all kind of play, eg. sandplay, storytelling, clay, puppets, arts, music etc)
2) the therapeutic hour is non-directive approach, led by child, the therapist follows
3) 1 case study usually take about 12 sessions depending on SDQ outcome (sometimes more)
4) 1 session per week

As a trainee, I can only take on 2 cases a week, thus, I appreciate your understanding if my schedule is full, I believe we can make some arrangement thenafter.

How do you know if it works?
After ¾ of the therapy journey, the same SDQ forms will be answered by teacher/parent/guardian/child. The result will be evidence.
Do note however, of the statistics:
¢  For all children referred 70% will show a positive change
¢  For those who are abnormal/at risk 76% will show a positive change
¢  For those who at considerable risk 82% will show a positive change
¢  For those at the extreme 88% will show a positive change
¢  So you could say ‘between 70% and 88% will show a positive change depending on the severity of the problems

How much do I charge?
I charge absolutely nothing for the therapy as a trainee. However, I do not have a therapy room, if you are not able to provide a room for therapy at the comfort of your own home, I would have to seek your understanding to absorb rental of a therapy room.
Rental of therapy room subjected to availability, the cost right now is $30 per session.

Is your room suitable?
 1.     A play room, or play space that is safe in terms of confidentiality, physical security and consistency.  This must be consistently available and kept clear of extraneous equipment or materials for the times of play therapy sessions.
2.      Absolute privacy during every play therapy session, with no interruptions, respected by every member of the family.

I look forward to embark on this meaningful journey to help children in need.